Relationships can be quite confusing some times. When you meet someone you like and they have the same attraction for you things can be a little confusing. There are so many mixed emotions going on in your head and the whole time you are afraid that you are going to do something that will drive him off or turn him off from you.
I remember when I first met my husband. I was in a part of my life where I wanted to date – but at the same time I didn’t want to get married. My mom had taught me growing up that relationships were not to be taken lightly and that you should always be looking to the future in everything you do. I always thought that this was good advice and adhered to it – at least when it came to who I dated and who I didn’t. I have been on a few first dates that have never made it to the second because I knew right away that I couldn’t see a future with them and I was honest enough to tell them this.
I am not saying that this is something that everyone has to do. However, there are a few good tips that could help anyone who is starting a relationship and is looking for something that could turn serious.
Be true to yourself
There are a few things to remember and to keep in mind. Always be yourself! This is one of the most important rules that I tell everyone. With my first boyfriend I was not always myself. When we first met I was – but when we started dating I was a bit more reserved and always did the things he wanted to do. I even tried to change my appearance for him. After we broke up and I learned that this didn’t work at all I told myself that I would never do that again.
I was completely honest with guys after that and I was always myself and the guys I met loved that about me and they loved who I was. Be proud of who you are and the things you have accomplished.
Set down the ground rules
This is something that you only want to do when you have entered a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Sit down and have a nice long talk about what you both are looking for in a relationship. When me and my husband first started dating we talked for three hours about what we looked for in a relationship. We both stated how long we wanted to date and if we ever wanted to get married. Now this is not the time to bring up children and if you do mention marriage make it clear that you are not necessarily going to marry him.
This is something that you want to do more so if you are looking for someone to settle down with. You don’t want to be with someone who never wants to get married and is only looking for a fun time.
Move at your own speed
If you feel that things are going too fast than slow them down or tell him that you need to take it slower. If things are moving fast enough for you than ask him how he feels and if he wants to take it a bit faster. Or you could be bold and take that next step for him. Don’t think that you are the only nervous one in the relationship. Most men are often just as nervous as to what they should say or do they just do a better job of hiding it.